If I could pick one theme for my life over the last year it would be needs: acknowledging that I have needs, learning how to identify my needs, practicing asking for what I need, and opening up to receiving what I need. It’s been a needy year. I wrote about what happens when you don’t…
In my four-decades-and-some-change on this planet, I’ve developed a little practice that makes my life easier. I call it Impossibility Spotting (IS), and whenever I’m feeling stuck, cranky AF, resentful, or some other swirl of angsty unpleasantness, I try to engage in a little IS. Basically, IS asks you to name the rules you’re operating by…
On this Solar Eclipse + New Moon in Scorpio, a time of both new beginnings and death, I want to look at hidden ways we resist change, instead of letting things die/transform, and how we can soften this resistance to usher in growth and abundance. If you grew up in a wounded family system, you…
During the Full Moon in Taurus, the energy is in your favor to tune into your body’s wisdom. And today, we’re going to use that wisdom to help us do something that can otherwise be quite tricky: Discern the difference between two different forms of emotions. Why do this? Because one form carries the power…
Something intriguing emerges when I witness my inner process during challenging situations… First, there’s a flare of emotions, and it can be quite intense. But if I resist the urge to get overly attached to the emotions, and I simply let them run their course, every single time…they pass. It never fails. However, that’s rarely…
I was flipping through one of my old journals when I came across an entry that really grabbed me. I’d been struggling with anger toward one of my parents at the time, and in my journal, I wrote that even though I knew the anger was detrimental to my well being and was fueling self-destructive…
I’ve written about the importance of owning and expressing one’s needs time and again on the blog because, to be honest, I’m a little obsessed. Clearly this is one of the lessons my soul came here to learn, because I never seem to tire of thinking about how our relationship to our needs ends up…
I was hanging out with a friend recently, and he was listening to some of his “happy birthday” voicemails on speakerphone. And wouldn’t you know, there was a nugget o’ wisdom hiding in one of those messages. For the sake of clarity, let’s call my friend “Samson” (mainly because I never have an opportunity to use that…
On a scale of one to ten, how in touch are you with your needs? Choose a significant relationship–can you name three of your needs in that relationship? In my own life and in talking to friends, I’ve learned that needs are a hot topic, and it seems that women are more likely to answer the…